What Makes My Kids Cry Today

There are moments in life when you catch yourself thinking… wow, I wouldn’t have handled this the same way a few years ago.

It happened to me recently. One of my kids spilled something all over the counter right after I had cleaned it. The old me would’ve sighed loudly, maybe raised my voice, and let frustration take over the whole morning.

But this time? I took a breath. Handed him a paper towel. We cleaned it up together. And we moved on.

Hours later, it hit me—

I’m not who I used to be. And thank God.

Slow Growth Is Still Growth

I’m not saying I’ve arrived or that I get it right every time. I don’t. But when I look back, I see a difference in the woman I used to be and the woman I’m slowly becoming.

I used to:

React quickly and then regret it later. Hold on to worries, guilt, and “what ifs.” Want control over everything—home routines, finances, timing, even God’s plans. Think I had to earn God’s love through doing more, being stronger, trying harder.

But now… even though I’m not perfect, I see signs of His work in me:

I pause more. I pray faster than I panic. I forgive sooner and let go quicker. I speak more kindly—to myself and others.

And I realized:

This is what grace looks like when it grows.

God Doesn’t Just Save Us—He Changes Us

It’s easy to miss your own transformation because it rarely happens overnight. God usually works in whispers, not spotlights.

📖 2 Corinthians 5:17

“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has gone, the new is here.”

📖 Philippians 1:6

“He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion.”

📖 Isaiah 43:19

“Forget the former things… See, I am doing a new thing!”

God doesn’t expect perfection—He delights in progress. In tiny steps. In quiet victories no one else sees but Him.

When Others Still See the Old You

One of the hardest parts of growing is that people don’t always notice.

Some only remember the old you—the mistakes, the immaturity, the past.

But here’s the truth:

God isn’t calling you by who you were. He’s calling you by who you’re becoming.

Even if they don’t see your growth yet, God does. And He’s proud of you.

Thank God I’m Not Who I Used to Be

So today, take a breath. Look back—not to feel ashamed of who you were, but to thank God for how far He’s brought you.

You’re softer than you used to be.

You’re stronger too—just in quieter ways.

You pray differently.

You parent differently.

You recover quicker.

You trust deeper.

You’re not who you used to be. Thank God.

A Simple Prayer

God, thank You for not leaving me where You found me.

Thank You for changing me little by little, even when I didn’t notice it happening.

Help me release who I used to be and step into who You’re creating me to be.

I’m not perfect, but I’m being changed. And I’m grateful.

Amen.

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🎙 Episode Title: I’m Not Who I Used to Be (Thank God)